Life Sucks

OK, so this is a purely self-indulgent post, cos I feel crap and I'm trying to feel better.

Last week a very close friend lost her first baby before he was even born. She was three weeks off her due date.

OK, so life's unfair - but that's just bloody cruel.

I just can't bear to think of what she and her hubby are going through. I try and imagine how she must be feeling, but how can anything that's ever happened to me even compare to the pain of losing a baby?

And anything I could say to her just sounds so bloody pathetic and useless. And I feel like I want her to know that I really do feel for them both, but then I feel selfish because isn't that my need that's being met, not necessarily hers? But if I don't tell her how I feel then maybe she'll think I'm unfeeling and uncaring. So I get all confused and upset.

I'm not sure how I'm supposed to feel. All I know is my friend must be going through hell, and I feel helpless and useless because there's nothing I can say or do to help alleviate the pain. I can deal with the crap that's dealt to me, cos I'm so often at the receiving end of it - I'm finding it hard to deal with the crap that's been dealt to my friend.

Answers on a comment please.

Para xxx